WHATS IN A NAME????
Every time I move into the future (weddings, baby's etc) I am reminded of the past (the ex's) and I drive through those back roads and photo albums and then I get lost......
Who am i now?
It seems we (women) have given up everything when we get married.
I realized a long time ago I gave up my
life basically to have and raise my children. And I would do that all
over again. Its not a sacrifice but a pleasure some don't get to
experience.
But I did not realize when I gave up my
name I gave up so much more.
Recently my daughter and son in law added her dad's last name (my ex) as her new born sons middle name which at the time I thought was a cool idea
BUT THEN I realized I'm the one who doesn't have that name.. and even “his” (ex) second and third now wife carry that name!!!
Now I'm feeling abandoned.
The other day I commented to my “now” boyfriend about my son in laws wedding band.. its uniqueness.. and he nodded yes, I had probably commented on it before ,. but then he asked me “did you wear your wedding rings all the time?” I almost started to cry .. but quietly answered yes.
Of course, it ment something. It ment
something to me.
Another sign I should have recognized.
My ex never wore his ring unless I asked him to or when we were going
one of 'his' family functions. Another breath.... another sigh of
sadness.
I'm feeling ...
like I'm disappearing...
I was a mom, I was a wife, I was a friend, I had rings, I had a home, I had a family car, I had enough plates and silverware for Christmas. Now.???
I worked hard to become “this?” “that?” now what
more and more I'm hearing of people suggesting prenuptial.
I think if a woman signs a prenup it
should state that she keeps her own name AND the children take her
name instead of his (he can have the middle name) and that way if
things go sour she won't have to return to her maiden name and the
kids and her will remain the same.
Just one more way we've given up who we are... whats in a name??? ME!! thats what!
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